The House that Tex Built (part 2)

Tex all dolled up and happy to be Ladybug's pillow

Tex's little house in the desert is now almost 60 years old and noticeably empty. Looters have foraged through the house, broken the windows, ripped off a lot of the knotty pine paneling and generally trashed the place. We heard it was destined soon to be demolished.

So we called Grampy at 8am on a beautiful June Saturday morning. Grampy was on his fifth pot of coffee by then. “Dad you want to go to Lancaster with us today and see the old house on Avenue A?” “What?” he said “See an old horse they put away? What the hell are you talking about?!” “No” Mike said “Go take a drive down Avenue A and see the old house you built. It's deserted now so let's go take a look”. “ Well I guess I can go. OK” he said.

We went to pick him up. His face was scrubbed and the little hair he has left on his head was properly gelled and combed straight back. He had on his good pair of cowboy boots and his wife's old Sam's Town jacket she won in Laughlin back in 1987—he was ready to roll. As we helped him into the back seat of the van he said “Can we go by and get lunch at the Casa Roma?” The Casa Roma was an Italian restaurant there in the 50's that was owned by his good friend, Arthur and his Italian family. Arthur died many, many moons ago. The restaurant has changed hands several times and is no longer a restaurant, but a biker bar inhabited by bearded, tattooed, beer guzzling, ruffians....who may or may not like Italian food—but they sure ain't getting any there. But to Tex, the Casa Roma is frozen in time and he fully expected it to still be thriving, still painted bright red and green and still serving the best damn pizza this side of Chicago. I broke the news to him gently. He just sighed, stared out the window and shook his head back and forth. Unfortunately, he's getting used to news like this.

Mike peeking in the front window

Original linoleum on the kitchen wall

Knotty pine living room and wet bar

We drove the one and half hours it takes to get there, straight through the desert to the middle-of-nowhere house on Avenue A. After 60 years it is, not so surprisingly, still in the middle of nowhere with only tumbleweeds and rattlesnakes to watch it's slow deterioration. We parked in the dirt in the front yard and as we stepped out of the car, into the silence of the desert wind, I watched Grampy's face closely, looking for signs of alarm and sorrow. The house is deserted, dilapidated and has been picked over by desert salvagers. We walked around to the back and found the old kitchen door swinging loosely on one hinge. As we walked into the house, across the floor, side-stepping the debris, Mike observed; “This house looks so much smaller than I remember it”. Grampy was silent, looking at the tattered walls and the tiny kitchen sink. The original stove and oven were still there, long in a state of disrepair. I wondered how my mother in law ever managed to feed four hungry men in that miniscule space. We moved into the living room, the pride and joy of the house. Mike and I exclaimed over the genuine knotty pine paneling (what was left of it), the rock fireplace the hand-made hammered tin switch plates on every light fixture. The original drapes were still there as well, dusty but surprisingly intact. Grampy was silent as we surveyed the neglected living room, every piece of paneling and every rock in the fireplace put there by him all those many years ago.

We made our way to the kid's room. It was hard to believe that three growing boys all slept in that little room, and harder yet to believe the original wallpaper that Tex had hung there for was still there! Oh it was sure enough tattered and water-stained but it was there, 50's style astronauts and rockets cascading across the room...offering Grampy and Mike a blast from the past. (pun intended)

Mike looking at the astronaut wallpaper

Grampy stoically took that walk down memory lane that day, pretty quiet throughout the whole ordeal.  As they walked along Mike would reminisce with him over some of their past adventures; “Dad remember that big hole out back that we piled high with scrap lumber? Remember that?” and Tex would solemnly nod up and down. “Dad here's the spot where we butchered chickens. Remember how we boys hated plucking those feathers? Remember dad?” “Yup” he'd reply, moving on. When we'd seen it all we stopped to take one last photo of Grampy and the house he built then got into the van and drove off into the sunset.

Last photo of Grampy and the house he built

They say you can't go home and I expect we all realized it first-hand that day. As we ate our lunch at Marie Callenders (a poor substitute for the fine Italian dining at Casa Roma) we talked about everything BUT that house. Mike and Grampy knew they'd never see it again. No use crying over spilled milk. Grampy has learned many times over the course of his advancing years that all of life is transient and brief. But I suspect he tucked away, in some corner of his mind, his memories of that old house and his life back then when he was a strapping young man with no gray in his hair and no arthritis in his joints. When he didn't have to depend on his son to mow his lawn, write his rent check every month , take him shopping and to his doctor appointments. And I suspect he brings those memories out for inspection more often than most as he sits in his recliner alone, living out the sunset years of his life.

 “Time it was and what a time it was. It was a time of innocence a time of consequences. Long ago, it must be. I have a photograph. Preserve your memories, they're all that's left you”. ~Simon & Garfunkel

The House That Tex Built (part 1)

Back in 1954, Grampy built a small house in the Mojave Desert—isolated as all get-out, smack dab in the middle of nowhere. This was his dream home and his dream location. Never mind that he had a city-bred wife who hated the country and three school age hooligan boys who would find more mischief in the sandy hills of the Antelope Valley than their mother could ever have imagined.

Bernie and Tex in the Knotty Pine living room 1954

He built it with love, entirely by hand and all by himself. It was a project he could be proud of. Bernie (his wife) was just thankful and relieved that he included an indoor outhouse. There were two small bedrooms, a kitchen so miniscule you could spread out your arms and touch two walls, a dining room, one serviceable bathroom and a nice sized living room with a large wet-bar, rock fireplace and knotty pine paneling all around. Tex finished the outside of the tiny house with pink paint and white gingerbread trim. He put up astronaut wallpaper in the bedroom the three boys shared and built-in cabinets in the master bedroom. The kitchen was tastefully finished with green and pink linoleum tiles. But the knotty pine living room was Tex's piece de resistance with the large wood bar, rustic rock fireplace and hammered steel switchplates and wall decorations he made himself during his lunch hours at the sheet metal plant he worked at. It was truly a house of the 50's and one I'd proudly pin to my Pinterest boards.

Hand made switchplates are throughout the house

The family lived there for 9 years...a goodly amount of time for those three boys to wreak havoc on the desert wildlife, continually frighten their mother with countless snakes and spiders, shoot a bushel of crows with their BB guns and long enough for Bernie to crack (I'm talking certifiable nervous breakdown), threaten D-I-V-O-R-C-E and insist they move back into town. So Tex reluctantly sold the gingerbread house, packed up all their belongings, and moved the whole kit and kaboodle back into the city.

But oh, those years in the desert were the halcyon days of Grampy's life. During that time, he built up a good-sized chicken ranch and managed to compile so much salvage lumber he could easily have built another two houses with it. He was in his element there, with no noisy and nosy neighbors to interfere, and only his own honery brood to fuss and holler at —which he did at the top of his lungs.

Tex always pined for that little house in the desert and was never the same after they left. He always lived in some house in some town, with neighbors he hated, the rest of his days and even now. And being 88 years old, he's not likely going to be moving to an isolated spot in the middle of nowhere again.

And that little house? I like to think it always pined for Tex as well. None of the owners over the ensuing years could have loved it and cared for it the way he did. We know they didn't because, as adults, Mike and I would drive down that dusty road once in a blue moon to take a look at it. It gently and steadily fell into a state of disrepair. Oh that sad little, once happy house. But time marches on and houses and humans alike get old and tired. Their roofs get windblown, joints get creaky, and their floors fall in. 

But sometimes I sit and listen to Grampy as he recounts his time in the 50's - building and living in that little house in the desert. He seems almost happy, and surprisingly young again. Well maybe that's the most we can expect in our old age—memories and smiles, and someone to share them with.